That people are either good or bad.
It took me years to understand that we change according to our circumstances. I was always trying to be morally right at every point in my early life, but it hurt me more than I could take. Only when a close friend helped me realise that we are complex human beings did things shift. We need to exercise our emotions, give an outlet to our thoughts, fears, and other feelings instead of continuously suppressing them. Always trying to be good only harmed me.
So I grew up emotionally stunted and still sometimes have difficulty getting attached or fully processing my emotions. Even though my body absorbs emotions and signals, my mind takes time processing the depth of my feelings.
Talking my emotions out, journalling, discussing, debating, and reflecting has made me realise how much harm I was doing to myself when I simply believed that being good would always be rewarding. It rarely was. But being authentically myself is healing.
